To no surprise, but still amazes me on how much happier I am when I am not working a bazillion hours a week, not stressing myself out over deadlines… and in turn give myself permission to work on self care and whats really important to me. Then I am almost convinced to live a minimalist lifestyle.
Ah, the simple life! A modest sized home near a lake where it is quiet and I am surrounded by nature. The only belongings I have are those necessary for survival and comfort. I have the man of my dreams, a community of supportive friends and family, a plentiful garden. I work when I want, not because I have to. I am regularly active and creative. Life is easy. Sounds nice doesn’t it?
Over the years I have been trying to figure out more ways to de-clutter my life. What can I get rid of that a really don’t need? Clothes I never wear, home decor that serves no purpose, people that are a negative influence on me, and other ‘junk’ items. It’s just stuff anyway. Of course the convenience of modern technology would be tough to get rid of. TV, internet, cell phones, cars, gps and even high-powered blenders. TV would actually be easy for me since I almost lived without it for about 4 years now, but not my Vitamix, please don’t take away my Vitamix!! Heck, I don’t really need to buy those other things anyway.
I feel that the more money I earn the more unhappy I become. Although I don’t believe that means poor people are happy, nor does it mean that all rich people are miserable. We all need to find that delicate balance to make enough money to be happy, but not too much where is turns you into a grumpy old hag! When I was being over-worked in a well-paid, full-time corporate job I was not a pleasant person to be around, was sick regularly and my body ached. I knew it wasn’t a good fit for me and only lasted 9 months. Oh the joy I felt on my last day!
Occasionally I slip back into a routine where all I do is work and neglect myself. It doesn’t last long, but It’s always a reminder that I need to get back to place where I can find balance. Do I really need to work this much to earn what is considered a good paycheck by society? No way. I am learning to allow myself to say no people, projects, stressful events and say YES to allow myself the self-care I deserve. Life is a work in progress and as long I continue to learn and adapt I’ll be just fine, we all will.
I am grateful I am able to live comfortably, semi-minimalist and do the things I love to do… like take yoga classes, read a book, spend quality time with friends and family, make healthy food and get a good nights rest!
My message to you is a simple one: If you are in anyway not happy with your life, what can you get rid of? Or better yet, what can you add in? Hint: These things are rarely tangible.
The simpler you make your life, the easier it is to take care of yourself.